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I haven’t been here in a while.  Oddly enough, I haven’t missed it.  I have been considering shutting down the blog and retreating back into the solitude of my life.   I live a pretty simple and quiet existence.  Nothing fancy.  I like it this way.

Blogging is not quiet.  Blogging is busy and active.  The hive is always buzzing.  There are blogs to follow, blogs to read, bloggers to connect with and network with.  There is a blogging community to immerse yourself in.  It can feel like quicksand.  You have to work really hard to stay on top of things.  To be completely honest, I don’t want to work that hard right now.  Working that hard and spending that much energy on something other than my family just feels wasteful.

I also have had to examine who I blog for.  I felt inhibited.  I found myself censoring what I wrote not wanting to offend anyone.  Then I found myself not even wanting to blog because I knew I would be writing about the same issues I have been struggling with as a first time mom.  Somehow being a first time mom suddenly felt like a disadvantage, almost as if what I was writing was pissing people off.  So while I was quietly struggling with issues that I could have blogged and helped others or gotten much needed advice and support, I didn’t.  I didn’t feel like enduring judgment again.  So, I did not blog.  I stayed quiet.

Then, I realized that I blog for myself not for others.  If you come here and you read it and you like it, fantastic.  If you don’t, that’s on you.  There is a back button, an X at the top of your browser and a myriad of other ways to stop reading.  My blogging is voluntary.  So is your readership.

So, I will continue living my simple life and I will continue to blog about the complications, chaos and intricacies of this simple life.  You are welcome to join me and read along.  You are also welcome to quietly exit the stage at this time.

xoxo,

boss lady

 

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14 Responses to “to blog or not to blog: that is the question”

  1. I get how you feel. I’ve been seriously neglecting everything lately and just being a bit lazy about it. I have so many other things going on right now that I am having a hard time finding the energy or motivation to blog or do all that is involved with it!

    No worries mama. I’ll keep reading!
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  2. Tiffany says:

    I completely understand where you are writing from and it’s a place of honesty and there is NEVER anything mean or wrong about that. Continue to write for you and for your release. Those who are meant to be YOUR Readers, Followers and Supporters Will Be.
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  3. Crystal says:

    I hear you! Sometimes it’s just so chaotic in the blog world, even though I haven’t been apart of it very long I sometimes need to take a few days away because I’m not used to being on the go go go all the time to try and have a fabulous blog that everyone reads. I am no where near being a super successful blog and I figure as long as I keep enjoying what I’m doing then it’s all good. Gotta write what I want to write, when I want to write it though.
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  4. Brittnei says:

    This is such an awesome post! Your frustration turned into something that perhaps many bloggers can definitely relate to. I’m so glad you will continue to blog. I really enjoy your posts and your blog! xoxo
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  5. Great post! Write for you, and the people that are inspired and comforted by your words will continue to come by and read. I know I will! :)
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  6. Never censor yourself. Even if it seems like it’s the easiest course to not offend (been there my friend), but that compromises your love for writing, and you started this for YOU. Take it from a crazy momma, writing out your frustrations is therapeutic and makes it all seem less hard somehow. Keep doing what you’re doing! Also, if you don’t get a post out as often as others don’t worry about it. I can’t keep up with half the other mom bloggers out there! It drove me nearly insane trying to, but I realized that I have to go at my pace to keep my sanity. Hang in there :)
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  7. Shay Jordan says:

    I think that you should completely write about what moves you and screw censorship. Something I realize is that my little blog is my place to just let out how I feel whether its the love or frustration I am having that day.

    PS – I love your layout of this blog. It’s so girlie and pretty!
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  8. Hey, I am glad yo decided to continue blogging for you. You are sooooooo right. Blogging can take over your life and you have to work pretty hard to keep in control.
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  9. Ilene says:

    Every few months, I have what I refer to as an existential blogging crisis. I ask myself why I’m in this? Why I do the work and why I try so hard to – as you eloquently state – “stay on top of things?” The truth of the matter is that unless you are in this game to make money, you don’t have to work hard or stay on top of anything at all. Blog when you want to. And read blogs when you want to. I post every now and then and read every now and then and found a good pace for me. Do it your way versus their way and my guess is that you will find your peace with it.
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    • superfreshbabypants says:

      amen, sister! I am learning that lesson. Blogging according to some master list of rules is just weird and uncomfortable. I live a really quiet life and my blog needs to reflect that. Sometimes. I come with my game face on and other times I just need to retreat into solitude. This blog 5 days a week crap is for the birds! At least for me it is. I am at peace with blogging when I want and about what I want :)

  10. Jen Chango says:

    As a friend and not a blogger… you are an amazing mom and just an overall great person. You have so much to offer. Never censor anything and always write from your heart!!

  11. Mary says:

    I know I’ve read this before. I’m sorry that you went through this. I totally understand — sometimes I feel like writing personal stuff overextend me, like I’ve stepped too far out of my comfort zone. But I hope you keep writing because you’re great at it.
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    • superfreshbabypants says:

      You’ve probably read it already!! Somehow it got posted to facebook again….who knew. Thanks for the kind words. It is such an awkward feeling to be so exposed…

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