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The greatest step toward a life of simplicity is to learn to let go.

-Maraboli
 
Recently I have found myself consumed with my phone.  I have become that person.  The phone constantly in the palm of my hand with my gaze downward distracted by whatever was on my screen.  Most of the time it was Facebook. I found myself scrolling through my facebook feed in the morning while I poured coffee or made breakfast, in the middle of the night while I nursed my son, while the shower warmed up, waiting at a red light, in line at the supermarket or the bank, before the lights went out at night and more recently while I ate dinner.
 
Facebook was permeating every nook and cranny of my life. I was so busy reading status updates, scrolling through pictures and links to articles that I was missing moments in my own life.  I didn’t even realize it was happening. I was invested more in what others were doing than what was happening around me. It became evident when my husband would ask me repeatedly if I saw my son do this or that in reference to some new milestone or newly learned behavior. The answer was inevitably almost always a resounding No. I was ashamed and embarrassed that someone else’s dinner plans, workouts, work drama, vacations, etc. was trumping my own life.
 
There were multiple ways to remedy this but I ultimately decided to deactivate my facebook account. Like so much else in life, I don’t miss what I don’t have. I don’t know how long this will last. Maybe a month. Maybe two. Maybe a year. Perhaps a lifetime. I’m not really sure and I’m okay with that.
 
In just the short time that I have been without the presence of facebook in my life, I have had the pleasure of reading books, taking walks in the snow, making blueberry pancakes from scratch and witnessing the miracle that is my family. The family that has been here this whole time while I was too busy watching someone else’s online.

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18 Responses to “why you won’t find me on facebook”

  1. I was wondering where you went! I don’t think that I’ll ever deactivate my facebook account because we live so far away from family. I know for a fact that my grandmother checks her account multiple times a day hoping to see new pictures of the kids.

    I do however, post much more than I scroll. I’ve started to limit myself to having just two browsers on my desktop computer and that has helped a ton too.
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    • superfreshbabypants says:

      It was a really tough decision but one that I am so happy I have made. I find that I am spending far less time online now in general and much more time with my family. I do miss connecting with friends and family that I don’t see often via facebook though!

  2. Deanna says:

    Are we twins? This is SO me and I was thinking to deactivate it. I did before when I noticed I was too much on FB and looking at my phone. My husband grew upset with me too.

    I wanted to ask you-did your blog fb page also gets deactivated? Because I wonder what will happen with all my likes-my personal page and blog page are connected
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    • superfreshbabypants says:

      My personal account was linked to my page so it all got deactivated. I don’t mind though! It has been such a good decision and I don’t regret it all.

  3. I completely understand where you are coming from…it can consume your life. I only post on my personal page once every few days and my blog page usually once a day. I check status updates once or twice a day when I am on doing the other stuff. But that’s it. It doesn’t consume my life and most of what is posted isn’t what I need to read. Honestly, I don’t care that someone is getting their coffee right now. If you found an awesome recipe though, I might want to know that though! I think whatever works for you is best and I’m glad you’re enjoying your FB freedom! Visiting from SITS Sharefest this morning. :) Happy Saturday!
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    • superfreshbabypants says:

      I didn’t have that self control…haha! It definitely feels like a certain sense of freedom has been lifted now and I love it!!

  4. Carolann says:

    I can relate…although…I think if you can find a balance of both worlds you can enjoy both worlds. There are websites and apps out there with timers on them to let you know if you are spending too much time doing any one activity. I love all social media and make sure I allow myself a certain amount of time devoted to each. You can check Facebook, say, twice a day for a half hour…or something like that. It’s like when you diet, and you deprive yourself of certain foods, that only makes you want them more, but if you take just one bite, just one small bite, you will find that enough to satisfy you!
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    • superfreshbabypants says:

      Perfect analogy and exactly why I don’t diet :) Facebook is like sugar for me. I can’t get enough of it once I have a small taste but if I don’t have any…I don’t miss it at all!!

  5. Pam says:

    Good for you–what an awesome step you have taken, and one I’m sure you won’t regret. Your last paragraph said it all. I don’t have a smart phone, and I’m kind of afraid to get one. I’m an easily distracted person, and I have enough trouble staying away from my tablet. I’m very glad I didn’t have these distractions when my kids were little!
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    • superfreshbabypants says:

      I used to think it was my phone that was so distracting when really it is what is on my phone and my inability to look away. Without facebook at my fingertips, I have spent so much more time with my family!

  6. Pam says:

    P.S. Happy Saturday Sharefest!
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  7. Rachel G says:

    I’d say you made a choice to do exactly what you needed! I don’t have a smartphone–just a phone that calls, it doesn’t even text…and from everything I’ve heard from friends and family about the struggles with their phones, I don’t think I ever want a smartphone! I’ll keep the internet at the computer desk! :)
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    • superfreshbabypants says:

      Yes! You aren’t missing anything really! I often think about getting a landline and ditching my cell phone. It is so crazy that people don’t remember what the world was like before cell phones….

  8. Molly says:

    I have thought so much about this too. I am seriously addicted to my phone and I know my kids are noticing. What I want to do is choose a few days a week where my phone is NOT used at all except for if someone calls me. Those days will be off limits to social media. It will be difficult because I love blogging and social media but I have to make a change. Good for you!
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    • superfreshbabypants says:

      I tried limiting myself and failed….haha! I don’t miss facebook at all and am rarely online now either on my phone or laptop. Love it!

  9. Madinia says:

    I found you!!! Was thinking of you the other week and noticed you deactivated your account. Good thing your blog post name is so catchy that I have other means of keeping in touch. This post reminds me of the Handsfree Revolution. She’s a mom blogger who has the same philosophy – be present in the moment with your family. I, too am a member of Faceaholics. However I haven’t taken the all important step to deactivate my account. I think as stay at home moms it’s our way to connect with other grown ups. I know once I go back to work in a more permanent capacity that Facebook will be one of the last things on my mind.
    Miss your posts. …looks like I have to keep up with your here! Xoxo

    • superfreshbabypants says:

      That is so funny because I just picked up her book at the library yesterday!! I started reading it and found we already do so many of the things she suggests!!

      I find that I am really enjoying my life a lot more now that I am no longer on facebook. It was a very big distraction for me and one that was not really serving any purpose!

  10. superfreshbabypants says:

    I was part of a facebook group for breastfeeding moms that was invaluable. I would have never quit facebook a year ago just because of that group!! It was such a valuable resource and supportive community. I feel blessed to be content without that online presence in my life for right now :)

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